December has always been a month that triggers conflicting feelings for me. Not only is it my birth month, but it also signifies the completion and ending of something, which means a beginning is near. And so, December is usually the time of year when I tend to get hard on myself thinking about all the things I could have accomplished instead of looking at all the things I HAVE accomplished! (Isn’t that what we do as humans?) And so for the past three years I’ve made it my duty to retreat – literally to get away from the hustle and bustle and engage in deep #meditation, #selfreflection, and #selfcare in the early part of December. Here’s what was reinforced for me on my trip to the Silent Stay Retreat in California:
1) Love myself from the inside out, everything lasting begins within; outside in will fade.
2) Get somewhere quiet everyday, and be in the presence of the source.
3) Find something to be grateful for everyday, and document it.
4) Always celebrate my wins; but don’t just celebrate, document them.
5) Deduct the lessons from my losses before tossing them, and use them as a catalyst for my advancement.
6) Always forgive myself and others; without forgiveness I am stuck.
7) Take joy in receiving as in giving.
8) Listen to my body; Rome wasn’t built in a day.
9) Never underestimate the power of human connection; find and maintain a network.
1. Love Myself From The Inside Out, Everything Lasting Begins Within
The first time I saw a lesson on self-love I thought to my self, “lesson on self-love? how can a person not love him or herself? Why would someone need to be taught self-love?” Turns out many of us do need a lesson (or lessons) on self-love. It’s not narcissistic. It’s not weird. Rather, it’s the art of knowing ones self – perfections and imperfections, holistically caring for the self – spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically, continuous improvement on areas that do need improvement (based on what YOU want) – and accepting yourself as a whole.
Here’s the epicenter of self sabotage and the opposing side to self love:
a) Taking care of everyone else’s needs, leaving ours on the back burner – the one with the “when I have time” sign.
b) Beautifying the outside, while the inside is in turmoil.
c) Looking to others for validation, and then beating on ourselves when the validation fall short.
d) Expecting others to love us when we don’t even love ourselves.
Caring for Everyone Else (But Ourselves)
As women, we often put everything else before ourselves – children, family, career, business – giving our all with little to no self care for ourselves. And while doing all this is deemed fulfilling, continuous neglecting of self will ultimately lead to resentment, unhappiness, and overall bad health. It could also lead us to not being around for the results of our labor – all the seeds we’ve sown in your relationships, as parents, and our careers or businesses. Balance is the order of the day! And self love will lead us to assert this balance. Many times, if we don’t, no one else will.
Beautifying The Outside (While The Inside Suffers)
Appearance matters! Our exterior matters; but wouldn’t it be wonderful if our inside is a perfect match to our outside? For some of us, it does, and for some the inside is even doing better than the outside. But for others, the inside is nowhere near the congruity, calm, and overall allure of the outside. Things such as limiting self-beliefs, unforgiveness, and past hurt that have not been dealt with will continue to eat at the inside and while people on the outside may not know about them – we do! And only you and I can make the choice to get the help we need to heal and pacify our internals, so that we can be true and whole on the inside as we are on the outside. How long can we “keep up appearance”? And what will happen when appearance fails?
Looking To Others For Validation (Becoming Broken In Its Absence)
Outside validation does not work! And sadly, for many people, that’s their reality. The reality they create for themselves. And that need for external validation comes from a place of low self worth, and limited-ness. A place where everything is looking outward, and nothing is looking inward. It is so easy to look for outside validation from others, especially people we care about, because having them validate us (in our mind) is a form of approval. But what happens when that validation does not come? The fact that we look up to them, and place them in a place of importance and meaning does not mean they value us the same. Self is too important to leave any area to others to nurture and hold dear for us. Take time out to know yourself – flaws and all (we all have them) and learn to love yourself unconditionally. According to universal laws, your love and devotion to your self will attract people, things, and situations that are in alignment with your self worth and the way you have embraced yourself. Love and validate you!
Expecting Others Love (When We Don’t Even Love Ourselves)
I’ve seen this happen so many times on so many different levels, and it is the most self-sabotaging thing anyone can do. This is especially dangerous in relationships where we expect our partner to love us unconditionally – including our imperfections, but we opt to not even love ourselves. Your partner knows you! And believe me when I tell you that your partner will treat you based on the way you value and treat yourself. If you love and value yourself, then you will not allow anyone to devalue and treat you as less than the beautiful, smart, courageous light being that you are. When you love and value yourself you will not tolerate anything less from anyone else. I’ve been in a past relationship where a man puts his hand on me, (yessssss, he tried it!) and the very first time he did, became the very last time. I was out of that relationship before he could even conjure up any excuse as to why he allowed himself to go there with me. All it took was one hit and I was out! We teach people how to treat us by the way we treat ourselves, and the way we react when treated unfairly. When a person love him or herself, it shows! In fact, universal laws allow it to be discerned and people around us know if we love ourselves or not. It emanates to others, and it’s not something we can hide. We can pretend, as many people do, but it does not work. Love yourself unconditionally first, outside love will flow in!
2. Get Somewhere Quiet Everyday, and Be In The Presence of The Source
Like the herbs need the sun, so do we need our source – whomever or whatever we consider that source to be. This is a daily non-negotiable for me, and it’s amazing what peace and clarity can result from being away from the noise, and absolutely quiet. By finding a quiet corner somewhere for ten or fifteen minutes of meditation every day, experts believe we can improve our overall health and well-being. One of the main principles behind meditation is that by removing negative and wandering thoughts and fantasies from our minds, we can calm ourselves and achieve a deep sense of peace. Any negative thoughts like exam stress, problems with parents, money, or relationship troubles contribute to the ‘pollution’ of our minds. Blocking them out for a while allows our minds to focus on deeper, more relaxing thoughts. In my experience, getting somewhere quiet, emptying my mind and listening creates a clear path for my source to connect with me. If you’ve never done this, you should try it. Only positives can result from this experience!
3. Find Something To Be Grateful For Everyday, and Document It
Oh my God! I cannot tell you how being grateful daily and documenting it has helped me – as a woman, mother, mentee, mentor, business owner. Research has shown – time and time again, that gratitude heightens quality of Life. Psychologists, Michael McCollough of Southern Methodist University in Dallas, Texas, and Robert Emmons of the University of California at Davis, wrote an article about an experiment they conducted on gratitude and its impact on well-being. The study split several hundred people into three different groups and all of the participants were asked to keep daily diaries. The first group kept a diary of the events that occurred during the day without being told specifically to write about either good or bad things; the second group was told to record their unpleasant experiences; and the last group was instructed to make a daily list of things for which they were grateful. The results of the study indicated that daily gratitude exercises resulted in higher reported levels of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, optimism, and energy. In addition, those in the gratitude group experienced less depression and stress, were more likely to help others, exercised more regularly, and made greater progress toward achieving personal goals.
Dr. Emmons – who has been studying gratitude for almost ten years and is considered by many to be the world’s leading authority on gratitude – is author of the book, Thanks!: How the New Science of Gratitude Can Make You Happier. The information in this book is based on research involving thousands of people conducted by a number of different researchers around the world.
There are many ways to practice gratitude. I practice gratitude everyday by keeping a gratitude journal, and documenting the things I’m thankful for – big and small. This concept was made famous by Sarah Ban Breathnach in her book, The Simple Abundance Journal of Gratitude. This exercise basically consists of writing down every day a list of three to ten things for which you are grateful; you can do this first thing in the morning or before going to bed at night. I do this every morning and again at nights. It doesn’t have to be a BIG thing; it could be something so simple as getting a phone call from someone you lost touch with and have been trying and longing to reach. Try it for yourself and see the difference it makes in your life!
4. Always Celebrate My Wins & Document Them
Yesssss! Celebrate those wins, and not only celebrate, but document them as well. Again documentation is super important – so key. You see documenting helps us to look back over our accomplishments, and not just remembering them vaguely, but actually seeing our list of wins. Coupling those documentation with photos from each win will undoubtedly keep you motivated, and in a space of gratitude because your progress will be abundantly clear.
5. Deduct The Lesson(s) From My Losses Before Tossing Them, and Use Them As a Catalyst For My Advancement
Yes, we’re gonna toss those losses! We do not want to constantly remember how they make us feel. But before we kick them to the curb, how about we deduct the lessons so we can use them for our advancement? Yes, there is a lesson or lessons in every loss, and although it may take some time to decipher the lesson(s), be sure to find and extract it before placing it into that box of forgetfulness. Thank you for this one Silent Stay Retreat!
6. Always Forgive Yourself and Others; Without Forgiveness You are Stuck
I don’t need to speak much on this topic because we all know how important forgiveness is – both forgiveness to self as well as others who’ve wronged us. It’s not always easy, but so very essential. In fact, it is difficult to carry around the burden of unforgiveness, and whether we realize it or not, it hinders us from moving forward wholeheartedly. Who do you need to forgive today? Forgive and watch yourself soar!
7. Take Joy in Receiving as in Giving
I’m a giver by nature, a happy one at that! And so when our instructor mentioned the importance of receiving, it was the first time it ever dawned on me that the opposing receiving is also a great thing. This message was definitely for me! I mean, I get a lot of gifts. I do! And maybe it’s a part of the universal law of attraction that allows this to happen, but I’m usually the one to say, “Oh thank you, but you didn’t have to” while literally feeling a bit sad to be taking from someone. As if they went through too much for me. So this is something I will stop doing, and start fully embracing whatever I’m offered.
8. Listen to My Body; Rome Wasn’t Built in a Day
Sometimes we push ourselves. I do! Even at times when we feel tired, weary or even a bit hurt we still try to push ourselves to complete or fulfill our obligations. It’s a natural part of us, especially us women. But, as was reinforced for me, the body speaks and when it does I need to listen and obey. We are not machines, and whatever is needed can be done another time, another day. What’s the point in pushing ourselves over the limit all the time? We may push ourselves out of this life. And you know what? Whatever we are pushing to complete will still be there after we are gone! The other important thing to do is to document when we are feeling what in our bodies. For example, if you wake up today and your eyes were unusually blurry at first then cleared up, you need to document that along with the date, time of occurrence, and what you were doing when it happened. Even if you are not going to check it out right away – when it occur, document it so you can bring it to your physician’s attention on your next visit. So listen to your body, and document the changes.
9. Never Underestimate the Power of Human Connection; Find and Maintain a Network
I’m very mindful of this and while I do have a network, or a variety of networks, I sometimes neglect them. Finding a network is vital, but like anything else, the maintenance is paramount. If we do not maintain our garden or our prized possessions, we will not get to enjoy them. They will fade and disappear, for sure, and we all know how it is starting from scratch with anything. So if you haven’t a network, find one! And if you have one that you’ve been neglecting, start attending to it.
Make it a priority to self-love and self-care everyday!
Xo,
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Hello my dear friends, family, partners, and online community,
What a year it has been!
As we are about to partake in another Christmas season and welcome 2018, I want to extend a haughty holiday wish to you and a wonderful, everything-you-could-imagine-it-to-be 2018. Personally, I love the deep appreciation that unfolds at this time of year as people reflect on the joy they have created for their lives and so many others, and as they look forward to realizing their desired vision and dreams.
What a pleasure it has been for me to observe such a wide spectrum of people take up their own pursuit towards personal empowerment and financial independence. This past year I had the privilege of meeting so many of you, from all corners of this beautiful planet, and I am so grateful for all of you who helped to make my 2017 marvelous. In my quest to help you, I have in the process helped myself. #WinWin Thank you!
Let’s move into 2018 as true change makers!
People worldwide are discovering their desire to connect deeply to their own vision of life value, and to move beyond all barriers. Now is the time to use our inner integrity as our compass, moving in the direction of real action to contribute to the uplifting of others.
Let’s connect with what is boundless in us, bring joy to the world, and enjoy this time of year with our loved ones. And most of all, let us take some time for ourselves, to carve out our own authentic journey – forward.
You are receiving this letter because you are loved and appreciated. May the spirit of Christmas and the anticipation of a New Beginning pervade your life, and may you continue to prosper and flourish – both personally and professionally, in the coming new year.
Well the first thing I’m going to say – which you already know, is that life is precious, its end unpredictable, and sure. But pending that, life will be what we make it. We have a choice in what we do with our lives, how we spend our time here on earth, and who we spend our time with. At least most of us do!
Life by Design: Living My Best Life “NOW”
When my aunt passed away while I was barely a teen I realized at that early age how delicate life was, the surety of its end, and how little control we have over when that end comes. I also realized that there were people living on this earth who were controlled – limiting their freedom of self expression, livelihood, and ability to design and live life the way they want to. And so I decided at a very young age that with all the things I cannot control being highly significant, I would do everything in my power to control the things I can control – to ensure I live the best way possible – doing what I want to do and having a fulfilling life. And thankfully, I am living in a part of the world where a great degree of personal freedom is allowed. And so now I can truly say that the only thing that can stop me from living my best life, is me.
No-one is coming to hand me my dream lifestyle! I have to design it the way I want it, strategize on the tools I need and the path I will take to get to it, set goals to help me accomplish it, and follow through. In all eight key areas of my lifestyle design – health & fitness, love & romance, career & business, personal growth & development, family & friends, money & finance, housing & accommodation, geographic location & community, it is important that I take advantage of every day I am present and actually live and maximize the experiences I know I can have, and I have made that my priority.
Like me, you have visions of a better tomorrow; for yourself, and your family. Perhaps those visions consist of a you losing weight, getting into shape, quitting smoking, finding a career that you actually love, becoming your own boss, making more money, reading more books, writing a book, mastering your favorite musical instrument, purchasing your dream home, relocating to that country/state/city etc., all while making quality time to spend with your family, and keep up with friends. But whatever your vision, ask yourself, “what are you waiting for?“
What it Means to Live Your Best Life
Living your best life means living up to your fullest potential. And living up to your fullest potential means you decide what that looks like for you in all eight key areas – craft your unique design, devise a plan to bring it to life, then execute and actually do those things according to your life design. #DesignYourDreamLifestyle. Practicing self care – externally as well as internally, is another huge part of living your best life. This includes taking time out to smell the roses, eat right, stay in shape, and letting go of past hurt, limiting beliefs, and forgiving those who have wronged us. #LetInVivaciousEnergy. Living your best life also means that you continue to set the bar even higher for yourself, and committing to personal growth. You must be willing to change, to grow, and to do what it takes in order for you to continue being the best person you can be and living the best life you can live. And of course, you cannot live your best life without balance, and so you need to ensure that balance is taken into consideration when crafting your lifestyle design.
What It Takes to Live Your Best Life
Strength & Tenacity
Accomplishing our biggest goals and living our best life often means doing things that are difficult and challenging. It is so much easier to settle for mediocrity than to reach for exemplary. Exemplary takes work! Breaking bad habits and developing good habits takes discipline and strength of character, and living our best life will demand nothing less. We can build strength of character by first stepping out of our comfort zone, then challenging ourselves to do things that other people might consider difficult, improving at every level. We can then use that strength and tenacity to make more positive changes in all areas of our life. This inner strength is vital to staying the course, especially when the going gets tough. Also, we cannot live our best life with unresolved, emotional baggages weighing us down, and so in order to free ourselves of those baggages, we need to forgive our perpetrators. This is not an easy feat! And so you will need all the strength you can muster to get you through the forgiveness process. But remember: In order to fly you have to be light.
Courage & Determination
It takes courage and a great deal of determination to create the life you desire. As you explore and honor what you ultimately want for yourself, you’ll find that means breaking some old habits and forming new ones. Those changes may include walking away from friendships and other relationships that no longer support your growth and your goals. You may encounter resistance from friends and family as they see you take your future into your own hands. Often times the people who are not supportive of you are the same ones making zero effort to improve their own lives, and so they would prefer that others remain stuck along with them. It takes courage and determination to push forward in pursuit of your desired dream lifestyle, in spite of obstacles, lack of support, and criticisms aimed at thwarting your efforts.
Commitment & Self-Respect
Living your best life begins with appreciating the fact that you are alive. Realizing that life is a gift and every single day is a blessing is the foundation on which you build the life you desire. Appreciating life means respecting yourself and your body. Your body is your vehicle for this journey; give it the fuel and maintenance it needs, and it will perform at its best whenever you need it to. Choosing actions that nurture self-respect also builds confidence, and confidence is vital to achieving your goals. By taking excellent care of yourself, you send a message that you are important and valuable. Building your sense of self-worth is also inspiring and motivating. Likewise, commitment is a form of self-respect; you respecting yourself enough to set goals, and accomplish them. Following through with commitments you have made to yourself is the number one way you honor yourself.
Planning & Organization
Being able to live your best life takes planning and organization. Setting goals and living a balanced life is much easier when you take the time to plan things out and write them down. From daily to-do lists to 5-year plans, getting organized has a huge impact on our ability to achieve our goals.
Key People, Institutions, Things
Regardless of what living your best life looks like – for you, you will need either a) key people, b) institutions, c) specific things or a combination of these to play a role in you accomplishing your goals. Whether you need a partner in order for you to realize your dream of having a family and children, a degree in order for you to pursue your career or acquire the skills to start your own business, or money in order to materialize your vision you will not be able to live your best life without having the things and/or people you need in place.
Living our best life is totally possible! And because I only have one shot at traveling on this journey called life, the odds of me leaving my experiences and the way I live to chances, are zero. If you live in a country where your liberties are not hampered, take advantage of that freedom and make it count for you. Design your dream lifestyle, and live your life by your design.
Harvard graduate, Donovan Livingston’s 2016 speech is a testament to what can be accomplished when we believe in ourselves, and allow nothing and no-one to keep us off track. Take a listen:
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Whether it was in kindergarten, high school, now our workplace board room or our own home – at some point many of us are being told to shut up and conform to the status quo. We are offered alternatives to what we want as individuals, and our very being are contained and blighted by the confines that cripples us and quells our inner light from shining. Shutting us down telling us how to behave, stay in our place, what to eat, wear, see, hear, speak…how to feel about what we eat, see, smell, hear…When the hell do I get to be me? Is the question most asked. When do I break free from the oppression that suppresses me, letting out the caged bird so she can freely sing? When? We wonder!
Breaking free takes hard work, determination and a resilient spirit.
What I get from this speech, in addition to breaking free and taking off, is to “NEVER shut up! NEVER give up!” Make your voices heard however you want it to be heard, and do whatever you want with your life.
If you believe in something strongly enough, do not allow anyone to talk you out of pursuing it. You may get off track for whatever reason, but don’t stay there! Get back on track, uplift yourself and get to wherever YOU want to go.
Decide today! Make that decision that no matter who or what try to get you off track (if they do succeed) it will be short-term because you will muster up, remind yourself who you are, what you’re about and make every effort to get back on track and fulfill your dreams no matter how BIG or small. Make a commitment to yourself, then make every effort to keep it!
Throughout my life, many events have happened that reminded me just how incredibly short and uncertain our time here on this earth can be. But nothing compared to what I experienced two years ago.
Two years ago I lost a very good friend of mine and like many of us who have lost loved ones know, it can be a hard, brick-size hit. At the age of 48 Kelly was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and within a mere week, my Kelly was gone! There was no time to get use to the fact that she may be fighting a losing battle, she did not get any time to fight! In the twinkling of an eye she was just gone! You see Kelly was young, and vibrant, and full of hope and dreams. She epitomizes the perfect daughter, sister, mother, auntie, cousin, friend, wife anyone would dream of having. And I was blessed to be a part of her life. But her death changed me. Her death has placed an urgency in me to not waste a minute on frivolous things! To not remain focused on the things I cannot control! To be slow to anger and swift to forgive! To spread love wherever I go and make a difference in other’s lives! To stop and smell as many roses as I can possibly smell! To get out there and live out so loud that my very being becomes prolific! To live every second, every minute, every hour, every day, every moment, as if it’s my very last moment. Her life was a gift that I expected to have for a long, long time, but it was taken.
But you know what I can tell you! I can tell you that Kelly lived her dream. She wanted to be a doctor, she did that! She wanted to travel the world, she did that! She wanted a huge white house with a picket fence, she got that! She wanted a caring, compassionate, loving husband, she got that too! She wanted beautiful, healthy children, she got that too! She wanted to swim everyday, she had a pool in her own yard! She wanted to play tennis everyday, she had her very own tennis court on her property! She wanted great friends, she so had that! She has lived! She lived her life just the way she wanted, on her own terms. And so in mourning Kelly, I remind myself of what Kelly would want me to do now, which is live today like there is no tomorrow which was her actual motto. And that’s what I do every day, and I encourage you to do the same.
All our life designs are different! Everyone’s life design ain’t gon’ look the same way. We may have the same desires to love and be loved, to appreciate and be appreciated, to respect and be respected, to give and be given, to forgive and be forgiven, to teach and be taught, to listen and be listened to, to value and be valued…and the list goes on and on; however, when it comes to tangibles we all have varying likes, dislikes, preferences for different things and may also go about getting them using varying methods. But whatever you want your lifestyle to be, design it, actualize it, and live it. Not tomorrow, not next week, not next month and not next year. Design it now! Now is what you have! Now is what is sure! Don’t leave your lifestyle to chances, it’s too important for that. Design it and live it just the way you want it. And let no-one hinder you or tell you you can’t, because YOU CAN.
Believe in yourself more than anybody else. Shut down those negative thoughts of you being crazy for thinking you can actually accomplish that feat! Of you being out of your league for dreaming so big! Shut them down with positive opposing views and refocus on what you want to accomplish. Start affirming that you are worth it. You are capable. You got this! Design Your Dream Lifestyle, create a plan of attack, and start executing.
Allow yourself the privilege of being one of the few who can look back on their life later and say I’ve lived. I did the damn thing!
So go ahead and get started on designing and actualizing your desired lifestyle, but please bookmark this page and come back here to let me know how you are progressing and how this information may have helped you. Also, please like/follow/share/comment on our social media platforms and blog. There may be someone just like you who needs to hear this message today. And finally, feel free to get your copy of this FREE workbook I’ve created to help with designing and actualizing your dream lifestyle.
Hey guys, welcome again to another blog post where I’ll be discussing the BIG one – MONEY! Only this time it will be about the MINDSET. Yes indeed, a shift need to happen first before you can start to really make the money you so long for and deserve. Everyone wants to know how they can make more money, and with good reason! I mean, how many things can we possibly get done without money?! Really, barely anything!
I’m discussing this today because my inbox overflows constantly with people all over the world asking this very question, “how can I make more money?” And the simple answer to this is, shifting your mindset about money, and start capitalizing the result of that shift.
I’ve developed a system which is designed for you to not only look externally for solutions but to most importantly look inwardly for solutions. We’ll talk more about this later on, but for now, here are the main things you need to do in preparation for this new money abundance to manifest in your life.
The first thing you need to do is to change your money mindset. Meaning, change the way you view money, treat money, interact with money. If your mindset about money is that it is unreachable, unattainable, and just impossible to get a hold of, then your actions will undoubtedly work in accordance with your view of lack – and the impossibility-ness (yea, my word) of getting and retaining it. Stop with the limiting belief that it can never happen for you, and only a select few were meant to experience monetary overflow and thrive. Your thoughts will keep your actions in alignment with it, and thus that’s what will be manifested. Also, the way you view money will reveal itself in the way you treat and interact with money. If you see money as the “root of all evil” as some people see it, then that’s exactly how you will treat it. And if you know someone is evil you’re not going to treat them with respect, right? Well same thing with money, if you think it is evil or not good for you, then of course you’re not going to treat it with respect, and money command respect. If you respect money and the power money affords, then you will no doubt treat it with respect, and thus do the things that allow money to be attracted to you and want to stay with you. Respect money and keep it, disrespect money and lose it. This may sound pretty simple or unreal perhaps, but we are connected to this universe and there are vibrations constantly operating inside and outside of ourselves, and those vibrations oscillate based on what we are experiencing and most of all – how we view what we are experiencing and deal with them. I’ll probably be touching on this at some point later on, so stay tuned.
What I find in my assessment of dealing with people around the world as far as making more money, is that many of them are doing way too much and creating far too little. In other words, the returns on their investment – be it time, money or other resource – is way too minimal and not at all conducive to maximum results.
In order to make more money you don’t necessarily need to do more. You just need to be effective and more efficient. One way of doing that – if you are a service-based business individual, is to stop charging for the hour you are actually present doing the work, and start charging for the value of the work. In other words, charge them a fixed fee based on what you know your service is worth, regardless of the number of hours you spend actually doing the work. You cannot allow your client or prospect to tell you how much your service is worth. They can tell you how much your service is valued to them but only you decide on your cost or the value you place on what they need to get done. The other thing that you can do, and should do, is to find a way to package your services or one aspect of your services so that you can monetize that regardless if you are sleeping or awake. As billionaire Warren Buffet rightly said, “If you don’t find a way to make money while you sleep, you will work until you die.” And I want to add “work until you die” without ever living the life you dreamed. Also, find ways to automate things in your business that can be automated and delegate tasks that others can do without jeopardizing your business in any way.
If you are operating a product-based business, then your products can already be in automation and monetization mode, if you make them accessible online. Making your products available only when you are able to open your brick and mortar storefront will not help you make more money, and definitely not allow you to maximize your profit potential.
If you are an employee wanting to make more money, apart from asking your employer for a raise, the only other way to do that is either a) find an additional job or b) start selling something that either you make, get made, or something that you can do. For example, writing a book about something that you know a lot about that is also relevant to our times, or starting a blog or podcast sharing what you know a lot about and monetizing it. Choose what you want to do, and execute it well! Again, as far as finding another job, there is only so much you can physically do, and if you’re not careful, you will experience a real burn-out. So the second thing you need to do in order to make more money is to get systems in place to pull money in on auto pilot, and subsequently put those monies to work for you. Invest your money! We’ll be talking more about this later on, so be sure to subscribe to this blog so you can get more info on this when those posts are published.
The third thing you need to do is to be knowledgeable about your current financial stance, set S.M.A.R.T. goals based on where you are now and where you want to be in a realistic time-frame. Institute an effective financial system, and ensure that system’s procedures are adhered to, at all times. If you delegate your financial tasks, be sure to stay connected and in the know so you can ensure you remain on budget and your money only go where you need it to go.
So make a concerted effort to shift what needs to be shifted, and align what needs to be aligned so that you can start making the money you need to, and ultimately get to your peak destination – whatever that marker is. I’m not there yet, I’m still on my journey! As a matter of fact, I’m not even sure if there is a destination to making money cause really I do not want to stop. I shouldn’t stop having money flowing in, because until I take my last breath here on this earth, I will continue to need money in order to not only survive, but to thrive.
